WHY DO WOMEN ADMIT THEY R MARRIED OR IN A RELATIONSHIP FASTER THAN A MAN WILL ADMIT?

Victor: For 2 reasons, Toi! They are for (1) attracted to that brotha and are ashamed for feeling hot and bothered. And for (2) they leave it for chance just in case that brotha still wants to dance. “Sexual Trance”
Terri: Because some men are still gambling with their relationship.
Anna: Because we don’t like to play games.
Carlene: Men like too see how far they can get
Lorri: I agree. Men wanna see how far they can go.
Ada: I agree. It’s always a game to them. They are going to play as long as they can and see how far they can get.
Dan: I think there are exceptions to that Rule! Cause well, that is not always the case. Sometimes it is Visa-Versa.
Willie: I have no trouble telling a woman I’m in a relationship when I’m in one. Tell you the truth some women come on stronger when a man tells them that. Why do some women come on stronger when a man tells them that he’s in a relationship? your new question Toi.

HAVE U, OR SOME1 U KNOW, PURPOSELY LEFT PERSONAL ITEMS AT UR LOVERS HOUSE OR IN THEIR CAR JUST 2 LET SOME1 KNOW U/THEY WERE THERE? WHAT HAPPENED?

Cyndi: No… But I’ve seen it done with folks I just began dating.
Kelley: I left a belt at a friends and it was not on purpose. I asked about my belt and he had no idea what I was talking about!! I do not know whatever happened to my belt. So I guess the item mysteriously vanished. Maybe he got caught up and did not know how to explain where my belt was at or maybe he got beat with it! This was years ago.
Van: Yes, Toi. When an ex had sent me a message on MySpace. She heard of my success as an Author through her father. She said the dude who she left me for, she winded up marrying. He became very successful as an architect. He traveled the world with his lover who was also married to a guy in the service. To make a long story short I flew out the next day and met her down South. She took me to the beach after picking me up at the airport. We swam in the ocean. She in her bikini and me in my speedo with it all bouncin around as I embraced her with a sweet salt-water kiss. Then she took me back to their house since he was away in Japan. When she got in the shower I got in behind her and rubbed the sand on her beautiful golden chest and sucked and kissed the back of her neck. After I made love to her in their bed. I left the Xl Magnum in his favorite Timberland boots along with my Flight ticket from Pittsburgh. The next day I walked outside behind her in my silk blue Penguin pajamas and bare-naked chest and smacked her butt so the neighbors could see. I went back to Pittsburgh and a week later found out that they had a huge fight. She went to jail and they got divorced. I regret that affair. I regret sDeanping with married women. God saved me and I still ask and I asked HIS forgiveness.
Letty: I’ve thought about it… Lol bc I know my friends gf don’t like that we’re tight.. But that would just cause drama for him so I didn’t!! Lol

Lola: Yes! After dating for a couple of months I figured “its time” lol. I left earrings, clean under garments. Nothing has happened tho. He just let me kno I left things @ his place…*shrugs

Dean: @Van. DAYYYYUUUUMMMM!!! IT’S not your fault man. She was married, right? I mean ain’t like u twisted her arm. On that note. Folks just don’t do certain things so easily. I’m thinking she’s cheated before, just wasn’t with you.
Selena: Wow Van, although I wouldn’t have enough nerves to do that… That was sweet & wicked …. Lol….
Vincent: I had someone leave something and I thru it away. Don’t be leaving shit unless you live here!

Leonard: The universal code for men is toilet seat up. My sisters taught me the woman’s code: hair pins; back of erring in the couch; lipstick stains on wine glasses; underwear; hair in the sink; tampon box left under the sink; perfume on pillow: toothbrush; weave extensions in dresser drawer; can of Go Girl in the refrigerator; etc
Toi: LOL, you guys are funny! Damnnnnn Van, that’s CRAZY! But WHY did SHE go to jail?
Van: You will have to wait for my movie or autobiography to get that story, Toi. LOL
Toi: OK, I’ll be waiting!
George: LMAO!!!!!! WHY YOU ASK TOI? I was messing with this girl from VA BEACH. She would come up every weekend and we would hook up, stay the whole weekend at the hotel smoking, drinking, fuckin. This went on for about 3months then I started catching feelings cause the booty was good. I took a trip to VA BEACH to see her, and when I did she told me she lived with this old dude who took care of her but wasn’t hitting it right. So that’s where I came in, I was crushed. She knew I was hurt so to make it up to me she took me to their house while he was at work and we fucked for hours all over the house, every time I change rubbers. I left the used one under the coach, under the bed, under the kitchen table etc. We left like 30min before dude got off, she had to take me back to my hotel room, so he was home when she got back. My phone was ringing off the hook like 2hours later, LMAO! I think she got her ass whipped, I never heard from her again.

Barbara: Mr. George you do the most. Lol

Toi: George, damnnnn, you baddddd!!! lol She’s the CRAZY one for taking you to her house!
Tara: hell no and it’s childish…. marking territory like a dog…ijs…ha ha
Annie: I have…LOL!!! When I first started seeing my daughters father, I used to leave shit over his house all the time…panties, pads, shirts, shoes…whatever I felt like leaving. Just incase he was seeing someone else she would know that she wasn’t the only one…LOL! But I think when women go to a man, they’re dating, house for the first time, you look for shit! I know I do…bobbi pins, combs, pads…etc. and if you find something you know he ain’t keeping shit real with you!
Toi: lol, funny!
George: Thanks for that info Annie, cleaning up now.
Corey: Chicks forever FOR-F’N-EVER Leaving shiggity at my place. Part of the Shyster Club story is a team who come thru to clear that kind of stuff (if you are cheating). I ‘m thinking of writing a full novel just on a team of people who do that kind of checking of the house. I have found bras and panties, of course. Cell phone chargers, car keys!!!! Yes… Car Keys. Leaving the house, get in their car…30 minutes later … doorbell rings. Now, what did you think you would catch me doing?? Well, let me take that back … women leaving the home tend to be walking funny and in a state of shock. I usually offer ibuprofen and water in a little station by the door on their way out and with a list of suggested chiropractors so maybe they’re just dazed. So yes…things do get forgotten after the experience. Last year … I had a great yard sale just on that crap alone (jokes. lol)
Toi: LOL, Corey, you are a foollllllllllllll!!! lol


HOW DO U KNOW WHEN SOME1 WANTS 2 BE WITH U ROMANTICALLY (HAVE SEX WITH U)?

Don: u can feel the chemistry, It’s almost electric energy

Rodney: LOL! I have waaaay too many answers for this one. I’d hate to ruin my reputation for posting them.

Tracie: When he constantly stares at certain body parts and licks his lips.
Becky: I make them tell me!
Dean: Usually I’m told. Which I like because I remain a gentleman at all times. Don’t wanna come across “thirsty” as my adult children say… Or otherwise allow as Don says, know from the chemistry
Joyce: I see the bulge in their pants. Lol

Dean: Dayyyyuuuummmm Joyce. Now that’s funny!

Don: Listen women you have no real way of telling because honesty, most men want to be romantic with y’all, even if you don’t know him, Chris Rock once said, when a man holds the door for u all he really doing is offering u sex
Byron: Feel between their legs. Nah but real talk y’all are grown just speak it
Monique: I will have to agree with Byron on this one.

Terry: Yea just bring it up in convo

Larry: in my opinion u can usually tell by the energy that they are giving off
Toi: I would have to agree with Larry, bc, by the time you feel between their legs, hell, you SHOULD know something wayyyy before that happens! :)

Net: @Byron, Lol if they let you even get that close to their legs you should know its going down :)
 You can lay on the bed and start J.O. If she joins in she was ready. If you look up and you’re alone, she wasn’t -Lil bro thought-
Lynn: Lol…I never assume. But most guys have already fucked u with their eyes before they’ve opened their mouth to say a word…lol
Letty: mutual chemistry.
Jonn: Wine and dine you for a whole week
Jina: you really don’t know unless they tell you

 Keisha: Depends. Most men will invite you over and put in a movie. 9 times out of 10 it will have sex scenes. They will want to cuddle, than next thing you know you are on your back spread eagle

Dean: Haaaa Wooo Keisha …That’s hilarious. God that’s funny!

Toi: lol, yeah, that’s a good one Keisha! Too funny, but true!
Megan: You can tell by the way they kiss you and the foreplay. I think if they want sex only its more rushed but romantically they take their time and you can feel they really care for you
Tara: maybe rephrase the question…. I can name 69 ways I know someone wants to have sex with me…but just to be with me romantically-sex won’t be the only thing on their agenda….
Cathy: Hmmmmm another one of those questions that I’m too chicken to answer. But you just know.

WHAT R UR THOUGHTS ABOUT AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP?

Cassie: works for those who are open minded enough to be in one :)

Carri: I am too positive. I don’t want anyone touching my goods.
Letty: If I ever got back with my EX HUBBY that’s the only way I could see it working. lol But on the real could be a Lil scary you would have to be EXTRA CAREFUL

Keisha: I been in plenty of open relationships, I just didn’t know at the time…I’m not for them.
Ronn: They are great for those, who can handle it. Some are in polyamory relationships and just don’t understand the decisions they made.
Toi: Keisha, too funny, but damnnnn! Yes, I’m with y’all, don’t wanna share my goods either. The funny thing is most men don’t see a problem with it when it’s other girls they are sharing with, but if they have to share with other guys, oh hell to the nahhhhhhhhhh!! Double standard #1!
Christy: ‘closed’ case
Cindy: I think an open relationship is the same as sayin I wanna have sex with other ppl. But when I’m not into that person I’ll say, oh I’m in a relationship….. not cool!!!!!!!!

Erk: Rules and boundaries. Can’t be done without rules and boundaries. And they are not for everybody and rarely are they forever.

Don: Another name for open relationship is “dating”, I may go out to dinner with u, we hang once in awhile, we can sDeanp together, but I’m not claiming you as mine, but in your mind we are together. Most open relationships are like Keisha said, one party may not knowing about it

Erk: I mean the open part. An open relationship is most time just a phase a couple is going through.

Karen: This is my thought…. if it is open, I don’t want it, because it means keeping options open. I don’t care how you dice, slice or chop it. That is what it means or the other thought; if this is the only way I can have the person…open relationship is what it will be.

Don: Really Karen? So u will conform to accepting an open relationship?
Erk: As I said, they are not for everybody. And if they are not for you, there is no way you should allow anyone to include you in one. An open relationship requires communication and honesty on a whole different level if it is a sustainable relationship and not the END of a relationship.

Karen: Expletive here (your choice), no, I want to be closed and private. I was saying that is the other way of looking at it for those who want to do the open thing. I wish my husband would come up in here with some stuff like that. We will be on the national news.

Aishia: I think people should stop acting like ALL relationships aren’t open. Marriages and all
Don: See Aishia that’s exactly want I’m talking about!!! Most relationships n about 96% of marriages are open, its just one party doesn’t know about it yet!

Cathy: If I wanted that I’d be single. Don’t want someone else’s germs. 

Jina: rather be single

Crystal: Why be in a relationship if other people are going to be involved sexually, emotionally, etc? I’m jealous and the thought of my man being intimate with another woman doesn’t make me happy nor does it turn me on.

 Jonn: Personally a lot of relationships are open
Toi: very true, they call it CHEATING!
Iris: Not! Too much like work and hurt feelings. And when do you decide to stop, what if the other person isn’t ready?
Dean: They usually end up n disaster.
Dee: just thinking about the germ-swapping they would be doing would be a turn off to me. I might be a slight germaphobic
Toi: VERY TRUE and NO SHARING for me either! But true, it DOES happen as several of you have said, WITHOUT the knowledge of the other mate, which is simply CHEATING! But, as some of you said, if it’s something you WANT in your relationship then more power to you. I guess as long as everyone is in agreement and hopefully practicing SAFE SEX, then enjoy!
Tara: I can handle if he can…. if we not doing it together, we wont be doing it separately, capeesh? lol
 ^^^I would be open to it is all^^^

Annie: What’s the point of being in a relationship if it’s going to be open??? We might as well just be friends with benefits…

Tara: Annie actually it could have it’s perks…. at least ur not cheating…u can have a boyfriend, boyfriend no 2, and maybe a girl on the side, only for the ones who get down like that…and can handle it…that would be a lot to take on and lots of fire the department wouldn’t be able to put out…

Annie: Hahahaha….Yeah it would be! But could you really call it a relationship???
Toi: I agree, I think it would/should just be labeled as FWB! No sharing for me!
Irma: It’s NOT a relationship. It’s a buddy system.

WHAT WOULD U DO IF U SAW A FRIEND/RELATIVE’S SON/DAUGHTER’S NUDE PICTURE/VIDEO ON THE INTERNET?

Debbie: Forward the clip or pictures to parent and let them handle it.

Tina: Depends on how old the daughter/son is. Over 18 it is their business. But I would message them and advise them to not put themselves out there like that. Under 18 I’m notifying the parents.

Priscilla: tell the parents and see what I can do to help have it removed IF they UNDER 21
Connie: depends on the age of said child……adult aged…keep scrolling

Dion: it depends on that friend. Now if it was a relative I’m going in and would try to reach out to that family member and let them know the consequences behind their actions
Don: I wouldn’t say anything, more than likely they know and I don’t wanna embarrass them.

Toi: Interestingggg Don. Yes, especially if they were fewer than 18. I would forward the pic and let parents handle it. Hell, I will and have contacted some of my friends if I read messages on FB that trouble me about something their kids said, even if the kids r grown b/c u never know if what they’re sayn is a call for help.
Dorothy: If I would have known all the trouble I could get into…I wouldn’t have done any of it! LOL
Cathy: Well can’t really answer but I do have answers. Ya know. Lol.